Is Valentine What Your Marriage Really Needs?

By Ifeoma Samuel

Every wife should invest deeply in what matters most and what will outlive the moment. Your everyday habits impact the atmosphere in your home. What should change is not the dress, the shoes or the decorations you put up or the gifts you buy but it’s in your attitude… Your attitude towards yourself, your man, home-keeping and of course your kids, is what really counts. If you are not willing to improve on them then having a Val’s day is a waste of valuable time.

It is impossible not to notice the romantic air, noisy billboards, screaming adverts and shopping gimmicks and lots of articles centered around the valentine; where to shop or where to go on the hottest date, how to make your man crazy this valentine and all that kind of stuff.

You want your man to feel special so you spend a fortune just to make that day look like the fairy tale of your dreams.

I get it okay, but the real question is, “What happens after the 14th of February?” After the hullabaloo, it leaves you in a limbo because the romantic air fizzled out just as fast as it came.

The real challenge is the “After-party” – does the fire and romance remains in the marriage? Is it enough to last you a life time? Think about it this way: with how much we spend making valentine dates memorable there is still an alarming rate of divorce. Couldn’t it be that you are investing wrongly?

Your attitude towards yourself, your man, home-keeping and of course your kids, is what really counts. If you are not willing to improve on them then having a Val’s day is a waste of valuable time.

Every wife should invest deeply in what matters most and what will outlive the moment. Your everyday habits impact the atmosphere in your home. What should change is not the dress, the shoes or the decorations you put up or the gifts you buy but it’s in your attitude.

Your attitude towards yourself, your man, home-keeping and of course your kids, is what really counts. If you are not willing to improve on them then having a Val’s day is a waste of valuable time.

As a Christian, love is about the values in I Corinthians 13: 1-8 and that love plays out in your everyday habit, you lifestyle, your attitudes. Your daily expression of genuine love makes your home pleasant and not the onetime thing as in Valentine.

What should matter most is developing habits that can transform your marriage.

Respect: You show respect to your man through your words, your actions, your kindness, your show of affection; *don’t forget it is also important*. Don’t take your hubby for granted.

Are you the constant nagging wife? Now is the best time to quit that habit. Nagging drives good relationships apart. When respect is in place, the gifts you shower on him become more valuable and beyond the price tag.

Appreciation: It is easy to fix attention on what he is not doing rather than be grateful for who he is. Pay attention to showing gratitude for your hubby’s show of affection. It earns you more!

Intercession: The foundation of every good marriage is built on the knees. Rather than nag him to death, pray for your man. Don’t take for granted the power of prayer. There will always be situations but they can be turned around in the place of prayer.

Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much. – James 5:16

Encourage and Give genuine support: This is powerful trait that transforms a marriage. Be a help meet in did. Make it a point of duty to support your husband’s passion and dreams. Be authentic in your moves because he will notice if you have other things in mind.

It is hard to see clearly through the haze but the Bible gives us clear direction, not the world.

Comment Prompt: In what ways are you improving your marriage?